To be able to experience the world and make friends of different cultural backgrounds, it is indeed a wonder to travel. There are so many reasons to travel, and people are constantly promoting it. However, because travel is so heavily promoted, sometimes this “wanderlust” feeling leads to traveling for all the wrong reasons. Here are the top 3 wrong travel reasons to travel.
What is travelling really about
Travelling is about seeing the world, experiencing differences, going on adventures, meeting people, open our minds and expand our perspectives of the world. It has also come to my realisation that there are 2 types of people who go abroad.
- People who are tourists
- People who are trevellers.
Tourists are people who are more likely to stay in their comfort zone, armed with a camera (or selfie stick these days) and stick to the main cities. Trevellers, on the other hand, immerse in the local culture, explore the roads less travelled and experience new things.
With countless of budget flights, ticket discounts and the strong yearning to visit the world, there is no doubt “travelling” is one of the top favourite hobbies of people. Just check how many people write “I love to travel” on their Tinder account.
But some people do it wrongly. This is not about gatekeeping, but having clarity of your intent before embarking on an activity.
1. To Show Off On Social Media
Scroll through Instagram and reflect on what is going through your mind right now. Are there bikini-clad girls in their #wanderlust moments, happy 20-something prancing around the beautiful scenery, mountain tops and drone shots?
Social media has evolved from updating your life to your friends, to showing off your life to your friends and now, advertisement. I am not saying that any of this is bad. But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Social media is a platform to share.
However, before you share things on social media, I hope you pause for a moment to consider why you are doing this.
Are you sharing to update or sharing to show off? So many people these days are doing things for the sake of attention and that virtual likes online. The whole notion of constantly having your life on a pedestal like you are the Queen of the world and updating everyone is rather ridiculous, don’t you think? The need to show that your life is better than someone else and the need to evoke envy is others only highlights the low confidence in oneself.
Validation comes from within, not from the dopamine hits from the like button of your peers, as you pose for pictures. I’ve seen many who were lost on the phone and ignored the beauty around them.
2. To Run Away
- escape from the law
- escape from debt
- escape problems
It’s so much cheaper to fly these days, and run away from problems. And people do that. Because it is easier than solving a problem.
Don’t get me wrong, going on a vacation to take a break is not the same as running away from an issue you are afraid to face. I met with ladies who travelled, to escape their boyfriends and cheat while travelling, instead of breaking up.
I’m so confused by the whole situation. Please don’t be one of those.
3. Social Pressure
Sometimes, one feels pressured into travelling. People constantly posting their travel adventures abroad, while here you are: stuck in a rut, bored with the same old faces and scenes, needing to have some stimulation overload and culture shock.
Not only that, conversations are always on topics of travel and adventure. It’s almost like society has deemed “international experience” as a minimum criteria for being a social and functioning adult.
I am guilty of that, for my best friends and I have travelled to many places. We will bring up topics like “oysters in xxx” with specific wine from yyy because I have visited the vineyards and whatnots. It’s easy for us because we travel, but I can only imagine the social pressure on someone who does not, and struggle to keep up with the conversations.
And there is also an inherent pressure when it comes to dating and showing off one’s “Life CV” on where you have been and what you have done. I do my best to be mindful of the social pressure I might impose on someone.
That being said, it’s alright to not travel. It’s also alright if you do. Just listen to your heart and true intent. Don’t be a victim of social pressure. Don’t travel for the wrong reasons.
Trevellers is my way to change the world. Through my stories, tips and lessons learnt, I truly hope to inspire you to get out of your comfort zone, see the world and see who you truly are. Travel is more than just taking a selfie. Travel is an adventure, where you can truly become who you are, give you the time to reflect and grow to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.